Dear [INSERT NAME],
You’re the strongest person I know; because you’re a girl and you’re my daughter.
You might be told you are the tallest, the shortest, the prettiest, the ugliest, the weirdest, the fattest, the skinniest, the quietest- whatever you’re told you can hear or ignore. It can either break or build you, but it’s your choice, not someone else’s.
Please hear the good things, and tell other girls around you all the good things about them. Don’t talk behind backs. Say what you mean, but don’t be mean.
You didn’t come with directions or a definition. Define yourself and then go in the direction of your greatest ambitions. You might take a long road to get where you’re headed. You might turn back, or get lost. Wherever you head, your plans will change, either because you wanted them to, or the universe decided to throw a wrench your way. No matter what, at some point you’ll be stranded. You could be lucky enough to have someone come pick you up, but most of the time you’ll have to find your way back through the dark-alone.
Learn to be alone. Learn to quiet negative voices. Learn to change a tire.
Don’t compare yourself to anyone. No one is thinking of you more than you are thinking of them thinking of you. Just be you, because everyone else is already taken.
You’re not perfect. You’re good enough. Love your body.
Remember that you are in charge of what you believe. Believe in yourself. No one is going to make something happen for you; you have to make things happen for you. Be self-reliant and self-sufficient. Don’t depend on anyone else to support you. Speaking of support, invest in a good bra and great girlfriends. A great girlfriend doesn’t need to put a bra on when you stop by and they also tell you when you need to wax your mustache.
Do a lot, but not so much you can’t have lunch with people you love. Be nice, but not so nice people walk all over you.
Be concerned for others, more than you’re concerned for the way you look, or what you wear. Looks fade and fashion folds, but how you treat those around you stays with them and you forever.
Don’t read magazines. Read books. Keep your head high. Keep tampons everywhere.
You will be afraid of a lot of things. It means you care. Don't get frozen by fear, let it fuel you.
Don’t blame anything you do, don’t do, fail to do, or tried to do, on being a girl. Just get in the game and play your heart out. Nothing is fair. Nothing is just. Work your whole life to make it not be so; especially for those who need it most. If you see someone has less opportunity, pull them up alongside you and keep on marching forward.
Be gracious. Be humble. Be a tornado on the dance floor.
Be my daughter when you’re young. Be my friend when we’re older. And be the one that pulls the stray hairs out of my mustache when I can’t anymore.
Go get it you beautiful thing.
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